Unique Discoveries About Family, Relationships, and Love

The Hellinger Institute of California, in Santa Barbara is pleased to offer consultation and training in the phenomenological systemic constellation approach of Bert Hellinger.

I feel very strongly that I am under the influence of things or questions which were left incomplete and unanswered by my parents and distant ancestors. It often seems  as if there were an impersonal karma within a family, which is passed on from parents to children. It has always seemed to me that I had to answer questions which fate had posed to my forefathers, and which had not yet been answered, or as if I had to complete, or perhaps continue, things which previous ages had left unfinished.

Carl Gustav Jung in Memories, Dreams, Reflections

The Constellation approach shows new and unique discoveries about the source of suffering and the subsequent path to healing our love and relationships. This information has been discovered in the last decade through the practice of Family Constellations as developed by Bert Hellinger, an internationally renowned therapist.

From working with hundreds of Family Constellations, Bert Hellinger has discovered these previously hidden structures, the so-called Codes, or Orders, of Love. The Family Constellations have made visible these previously hidden forces which operate in our relational life. A completely new source of knowledge about love has thus come to our attention.

The Codes of Love are relationship determining patterns which influence the success or failure of love relationships. They are a kind of “underlying truth” about relationships.

The Codes have revealed the importance of belonging, bonding as well as giving and taking in successful relationships.

An example of such a Code of Love is that children, out of blind love for their parents, may unknowingly live out the fate of an earlier family member. They may sacrifice their own destiny and sometimes even their own life.